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I once read that whatever hobbies you and your spouse have, they should all be done together. While I don’t think that every single thing should be done together, I do think that there needs to be a few hobbies that are shared between spouses. So, if I could tell you that being intentional and focused with the time that you have with your spouse would benefit your relationship, you would be interested, right?
I thought so.
Here are four ways that you can connect with your spouse…
1. Turn off the TV.
Nothing is a bigger distraction than having the tv on all of the time. I’m not saying that you can’t watch television, but you should definitely come up with an agreement on how much should be watched during your time together. This might not pertain to you if you are both movie buffs and agree that watching television or movies should be a big part of your relationship.
2. Dream big… Together.
You should definitely pursue your dreams, but always include your spouse in them. Make your spouse’s dreams a top priority as well. You can even use this as conversation topic. If you don’t know what your spouse’s dreams are, find out what they are and help them plan them out. The interest alone will show that you care. Talk about what dreams you share and can pursue together, too. This step definitely makes the pursuit of dreams more fun for both of you.
3. Find a babysitter… And begin putting a date night in your routine.
Family time is great, but there is always a necessity for some connecting time. So, find how often you two want/need to go out and go set it up. Make sure this time is maximized as well, since this doesn’t happen often. Have a plan and if you are going to a restaurant, make a reservation. It saves time and actually feels more like a date.
4. Communicate. Talk about a common interest.
Talk about what you both enjoy. You can take turns on what hobbies to enjoy together and then even find compromises to meet in the middle on what you both enjoy. You may end up trying hobbies that you never thought you would and might even enjoy them. Make a list of things that you both want to do together, so when the time comes you can be more intentional.
It is important to plan out the time you spend with your spouse because time is so valuable these days. There is always going to be something that wants to take your time and energy besides your family. If scheduling in family time is the only way to make it happen, then do it. When you schedule it out and decide how you and your spouse will connect during that time, it maximizes the little time that you have. That sounds great, doesn’t it?
So, tell us…
What are some ways that you connect with your spouse? You can leave a comment below.
Occasionally we’ll fit in a lunch date. Restaurants are quieter and there’s no need to hire a sitter when the kids are at school. The bonus here is that neither of you feels overtired, so the conversation flows easily and you’re less grouchy. If it’s a gorgeous day, we might meet for coffee and a walk through a country park.
Love this idea, Annie.
Occasionally we’ll fit in a lunch date. Restaurants are quieter and there’s no need to hire a sitter when the kids are at school. The bonus here is that neither of you feels overtired, so the conversation flows easily and you’re less grouchy. If it’s a gorgeous day, we might meet for coffee and a walk through a country park.
Love this idea, Annie.
Adam these ideas were better than the number of comments you received!