I guess a better question is,
“When you seek out counsel in an area, do you need to go to someone who has been through exactly what you are going through?”
Your answer is probably “yes” to this, because they would know where you are at in life. Some sympathy and empathy would feel nice and things might eventually get better through this time.
But, what if I said that doesn’t have to be the case?
What if you don’t have to go through a terrible situation to understand where someone is coming from?
And what if we thought of counseling from a different perspective?…
From a perspective that it is a step in the right direction to seek out help rather than looking at having counsel as a weakness. It takes a strong individual to admit that help is needed in the first place.
Instead of seeking counsel from someone who has already been through that negative thing that you are going through, seek out someone who excels in that area that you want to be great in.
If you are going through a rough patch in your marriage, seek out advice from a couple with a thriving marriage.
If you have trouble with your finances, go to someone who knows how to handle their money well.
If you are struggling with depression, seek out great information from the happiest person you know.
I think you can see where I’m going here.
Now of course, if you have been through something negative in life that other people deal with, then you will have an exact experience to pull your expertise from. You can and definitely will use this for the positive.
But on the other hand, know that you don’t have to go through a mess to know what you are talking about.
Be confident in yourself and the voice that you have, especially if you excel in an area. You will help others strive for greatness without ever having to learn the hard way.