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Adam Smith | March 27, 2011 | 56 Comments

i’m scared

Once and a while things happen in life that scare a little.

For me right now the whole kid thing is a little scary. I mean, Colbie will be here for a while.
Yes, it’s gonna be a lot of work.
Yes, there will be a lot of stuff that has to change.

So yeah, that’s my scary thing in life right now.

Your turn.

Right now I’m scared of _____________.

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Adam Smith

I teach people how to have a greater impact through their work and their time. You can read more about me on my about page.

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  1. Shellie Kubicki says

    March 27, 2011 at 10:00 pm

    Right now I’m scared of not having a job (and the income). 2 1/2 years seems like an eternity. I’ve never been out of work this long….

    Reply
    • jackalopekid says

      March 29, 2011 at 12:40 am

      will keep you in our prayers. you will find what is perfect for you, i just know it. Make the most of the waiting.

      Reply
  2. Shellie Kubicki says

    March 27, 2011 at 4:00 pm

    Right now I’m scared of not having a job (and the income). 2 1/2 years seems like an eternity. I’ve never been out of work this long….

    Reply
    • asmithblog says

      March 28, 2011 at 6:40 pm

      will keep you in our prayers. you will find what is perfect for you, i just know it. Make the most of the waiting.

      Reply
  3. Jeanna Baker says

    March 28, 2011 at 2:55 am

    I am scared for my husband. He is in Afghanistan. There is a situation I cannot talk about right now, but just that things have been rough lately. I am worried for his safety and his career. All I can think is that there’s only two months left, but then I think there are STILL two more months left. I’ve been okay all this time, but these last couple weeks have taken a toll.nnAs for immediate fears with your little one, I understand (mom of three, the fears don’t stop just take on different dimensions). Let me tell you, black tar is normal. If you were having a boy I would also say watch out for the fountain that inevitably occurs with cold air, but you won’t have to fear that yet. 🙂

    Reply
    • Pauline Magnusson says

      March 28, 2011 at 4:27 pm

      Jeanna – holding you in prayer. My DH is deployed to the Pacific right now, so I don’t know the fear that goes with a desert deployment, just the stress of being the one at home with (sick) baby and kids, job, etc. Are you connected with the family support services at whatever your home installation is? Staying busy, and not watching the news too much can also be helpful. nnHang in there, and thanks to your family for your service – truly, all of you are serving!nnBe blessed – nPauline

      Reply
      • jackalopekid says

        March 29, 2011 at 12:42 am

        Wow, another one with a family member deployed. Must be tough. Keeping you in our prayers as well.

        Reply
      • Jeanna Baker says

        March 29, 2011 at 1:02 am

        Thank you too Pauline. This is actually my husband’s third time in combat and his fourth time going overseas without us (he went to South Korea in 07-08). I think I used up all my strength back in August and November when I blew out my knee then had to have surgery haha. Seriously though, I have just reached a point of exhaustion I guess and I am letting myself get stressed and worried over stuff. But it is always a comfort knowing there are other’s in the same boat who understand.

        Reply
        • Pauline Magnusson says

          March 29, 2011 at 4:09 am

          Jeanna- I’m hearing lots of strength in there!rnrnBut I definitely can relate to feeling exhausted by separations. The added stress and worry is so wearisome. Hugs. Do you have a good support network with friends who will let you vent your fears and will just listen? rnrnPraying for you both. The increased ops tempo is so hard on marriages. rnrnBlessings,rnPauline

          Reply
    • Erin Jones Corbett says

      March 28, 2011 at 5:54 pm

      “…black tar is normal.” Lol…nThat is great advice. I wish someone would have told me…

      Reply
    • jackalopekid says

      March 29, 2011 at 12:39 am

      Well, praying for your family. I can’t imagine having to leave Jasmine for that long of time. Oh and thanks for the black tar warning. 🙂

      Reply
      • Jeanna Baker says

        March 29, 2011 at 1:04 am

        🙂 It really freaked me out when my oldest boy was born. Luckily, I had helped care for an infant boy in high school so I had learned the fountain lesson already, allbeit the hard way.

        Reply
  4. Jeanna Baker says

    March 27, 2011 at 8:55 pm

    I am scared for my husband. He is in Afghanistan. There is a situation I cannot talk about right now, but just that things have been rough lately. I am worried for his safety and his career. All I can think is that there’s only two months left, but then I think there are STILL two more months left. I’ve been okay all this time, but these last couple weeks have taken a toll.

    As for immediate fears with your little one, I understand (mom of three, the fears don’t stop just take on different dimensions). Let me tell you, black tar is normal. If you were having a boy I would also say watch out for the fountain that inevitably occurs with cold air, but you won’t have to fear that yet. 🙂

    Reply
    • Pauline Magnusson says

      March 28, 2011 at 10:27 am

      Jeanna – holding you in prayer. My DH is deployed to the Pacific right now, so I don’t know the fear that goes with a desert deployment, just the stress of being the one at home with (sick) baby and kids, job, etc. Are you connected with the family support services at whatever your home installation is? Staying busy, and not watching the news too much can also be helpful.

      Hang in there, and thanks to your family for your service – truly, all of you are serving!

      Be blessed –
      Pauline

      Reply
      • asmithblog says

        March 28, 2011 at 6:42 pm

        Wow, another one with a family member deployed. Must be tough. Keeping you in our prayers as well.

        Reply
      • Jeanna Baker says

        March 28, 2011 at 7:02 pm

        Thank you too Pauline. This is actually my husband’s third time in combat and his fourth time going overseas without us (he went to South Korea in 07-08). I think I used up all my strength back in August and November when I blew out my knee then had to have surgery haha. Seriously though, I have just reached a point of exhaustion I guess and I am letting myself get stressed and worried over stuff. But it is always a comfort knowing there are other’s in the same boat who understand.

        Reply
        • Pauline Magnusson says

          March 28, 2011 at 10:09 pm

          Jeanna- I’m hearing lots of strength in there!

          But I definitely can relate to feeling exhausted by separations. The added stress and worry is so wearisome. Hugs. Do you have a good support network with friends who will let you vent your fears and will just listen?

          Praying for you both. The increased ops tempo is so hard on marriages.

          Blessings,
          Pauline

          Reply
    • Erin Jones Corbett says

      March 28, 2011 at 11:54 am

      “…black tar is normal.” Lol…
      That is great advice. I wish someone would have told me…

      Reply
    • asmithblog says

      March 28, 2011 at 6:39 pm

      Well, praying for your family. I can’t imagine having to leave Jasmine for that long of time. Oh and thanks for the black tar warning. 🙂

      Reply
      • Jeanna Baker says

        March 28, 2011 at 7:04 pm

        🙂 It really freaked me out when my oldest boy was born. Luckily, I had helped care for an infant boy in high school so I had learned the fountain lesson already, allbeit the hard way.

        Reply
  5. Beckythebizz says

    March 28, 2011 at 3:10 am

    having an anxiety attack in the middle of school…and that everyone will be there to witness my breakdown…Im scared of fear over taking my life….Im scared of my future…If I will fail…Im scared, that I may not be the person I would like to be.

    Reply
    • Jeanna Baker says

      March 28, 2011 at 4:23 am

      Becky,nYou will be okay, I know probably not the thing you want to hear. Please know, you do not have to be the person you would like to be because you are already the person God would like you to be. You are complete, perfect, precious, sacred. I will be praying for you. Cling tight to the arms of Christ. He has you, don’t let go.

      Reply
    • jackalopekid says

      March 29, 2011 at 12:47 am

      Well, Becky thank you so much for being honest and open and vulnerable. I don’t really know full extent of everything happening, but just know that you can talk to Jasmine or me anytime you need to. You’re such a blessing. Your future will fall in to place, trust me. No need to worry. We love you!

      Reply
  6. Beckythebizz says

    March 27, 2011 at 9:10 pm

    having an anxiety attack in the middle of school…and that everyone will be there to witness my breakdown…Im scared of fear over taking my life….Im scared of my future…If I will fail…Im scared, that I may not be the person I would like to be.

    Reply
    • Jeanna Baker says

      March 27, 2011 at 10:23 pm

      Becky,
      You will be okay, I know probably not the thing you want to hear. Please know, you do not have to be the person you would like to be because you are already the person God would like you to be. You are complete, perfect, precious, sacred. I will be praying for you. Cling tight to the arms of Christ. He has you, don’t let go.

      Reply
    • asmithblog says

      March 28, 2011 at 6:47 pm

      Well, Becky thank you so much for being honest and open and vulnerable. I don’t really know full extent of everything happening, but just know that you can talk to Jasmine or me anytime you need to. You’re such a blessing. Your future will fall in to place, trust me. No need to worry. We love you!

      Reply
  7. Some Wise Guy says

    March 28, 2011 at 3:23 am

    Thanks for being transparent.nnRight now I’m scared of not getting a job that will pay for the MBA I’ll graduate with this summer.

    Reply
    • jackalopekid says

      March 29, 2011 at 12:35 am

      i hear ya man. that’s a weird time in life. will keep you in my prayers.

      Reply
  8. KC Procter says

    March 27, 2011 at 9:23 pm

    Thanks for being transparent.

    Right now I’m scared of not getting a job that will pay for the MBA I’ll graduate with this summer.

    Reply
    • asmithblog says

      March 28, 2011 at 6:35 pm

      i hear ya man. that’s a weird time in life. will keep you in my prayers.

      Reply
  9. Beckykenealy says

    March 28, 2011 at 5:13 pm

    a couple of decisions looming. one being go to SA again for 6 weeks and another learn to ride a motorcyle at 54…..thinking both are wants and wondering if i am supposed to do either. Decision making is always hard these 2 REALLY weighty and hard.

    Reply
    • jackalopekid says

      March 29, 2011 at 12:36 am

      some decisions are definitely harder to make than others, huh? 🙂

      Reply
  10. Beckykenealy says

    March 28, 2011 at 11:13 am

    a couple of decisions looming. one being go to SA again for 6 weeks and another learn to ride a motorcyle at 54…..thinking both are wants and wondering if i am supposed to do either. Decision making is always hard these 2 REALLY weighty and hard.

    Reply
    • asmithblog says

      March 28, 2011 at 6:36 pm

      some decisions are definitely harder to make than others, huh? 🙂

      Reply
  11. Erin Jones Corbett says

    March 28, 2011 at 5:40 pm

    It’s a long story.nRight now I’m scared of coming home from work, or from anywhere, and finding my brother-in-law at my house, alive or maybe dead. nI’ve never been afraid of anyone before. nBut he is depressed and mentally unstable and suicidal and a drug addict. He recently called to ask me to take him in and I refused because I was home alone with my two kids. So, he told me he was “gonna get everybody” before “going out in blades of glory”. It was a long, loud phone conversation, but between me and my husband (who had rushed home from work after I text-messaged him while on the phone), we finally convinced him to tell his NA sponsors where he was and they picked him up. They checked him into a psychiatric emergency facility but his girlfriend checked him out two days later. nI don’t know where he is, what he’s doing, if he’s working, if he’s in contact with my mother-in-law because she won’t talk about it…and my husband is now perpetually furious at his brother for calling me and dragging me through the whole mess. nI’m tired. I’m brittle. I’m digging up graphic memories of the close friend whose suicide I witnessed. I come home, I rush into my house and I lock the doorknob, deadbolt and slide-bolt in two seconds flat, then jog to the security panel and re-set the alarm, all before putting down my keys & purse and taking my coat off. It’s pathetic. n God and I, we’re working it out. He’s sent lots of support my way, disguised as ordinary people; certain ladies in my women’s group who I’ve dissected scripture with for the past three years but never really knew, the cool Facebook/Twitter/church girl I barely knew but is now one of my best friends and my go-to prayer-partner, my mother-in-law who is finally supporting my stand against enabling her son, even your blog post the other day about focusing on the positive… I know God has given me grace to get through this, and it is amazing, but sometimes I refuse and walk right out from under it. He feeds me scripture with new understanding and takes my fear when I let Him. But. There are still a few moments each day when the frantic urge to panic takes over. nnThat’s my scary thing in life right now.nnThat, and wondering if I’ll ever really jump into the mission field with both feet or if I’ll just look back when I’m eighty and regret never giving it a real shot.nnI shared your current fear though, twice, and it still comes and goes. My kids are awesome, and parenting them is an awesome responsibility but a great honor. nIf your blog reflects your life, Colbie will be blessed to have you and your wife as parents. Congratulations in advance for your new little blessing!

    Reply
    • jackalopekid says

      March 29, 2011 at 12:33 am

      keeping your family in our thoughts and prayers.

      Reply
  12. Erin Jones Corbett says

    March 28, 2011 at 11:40 am

    It’s a long story.
    Right now I’m scared of coming home from work, or from anywhere, and finding my brother-in-law at my house, alive or maybe dead.
    I’ve never been afraid of anyone before.
    But he is depressed and mentally unstable and suicidal and a drug addict. He recently called to ask me to take him in and I refused because I was home alone with my two kids. So, he told me he was “gonna get everybody” before “going out in blades of glory”. It was a long, loud phone conversation, but between me and my husband (who had rushed home from work after I text-messaged him while on the phone), we finally convinced him to tell his NA sponsors where he was and they picked him up. They checked him into a psychiatric emergency facility but his girlfriend checked him out two days later.
    I don’t know where he is, what he’s doing, if he’s working, if he’s in contact with my mother-in-law because she won’t talk about it…and my husband is now perpetually furious at his brother for calling me and dragging me through the whole mess.
    I’m tired. I’m brittle. I’m digging up graphic memories of the close friend whose suicide I witnessed. I come home, I rush into my house and I lock the doorknob, deadbolt and slide-bolt in two seconds flat, then jog to the security panel and re-set the alarm, all before putting down my keys & purse and taking my coat off. It’s pathetic.
    God and I, we’re working it out. He’s sent lots of support my way, disguised as ordinary people; certain ladies in my women’s group who I’ve dissected scripture with for the past three years but never really knew, the cool Facebook/Twitter/church girl I barely knew but is now one of my best friends and my go-to prayer-partner, my mother-in-law who is finally supporting my stand against enabling her son, even your blog post the other day about focusing on the positive… I know God has given me grace to get through this, and it is amazing, but sometimes I refuse and walk right out from under it. He feeds me scripture with new understanding and takes my fear when I let Him. But. There are still a few moments each day when the frantic urge to panic takes over.

    That’s my scary thing in life right now.

    That, and wondering if I’ll ever really jump into the mission field with both feet or if I’ll just look back when I’m eighty and regret never giving it a real shot.

    I shared your current fear though, twice, and it still comes and goes. My kids are awesome, and parenting them is an awesome responsibility but a great honor.
    If your blog reflects your life, Colbie will be blessed to have you and your wife as parents. Congratulations in advance for your new little blessing!

    Reply
    • asmithblog says

      March 28, 2011 at 6:33 pm

      keeping your family in our thoughts and prayers.

      Reply
  13. Alece says

    March 29, 2011 at 12:30 am

    Right now I’m scared of… life. nnIt is suddenly a whole lot harder and darker and more frightening than I ever thought it could possibly be. And, to be honest, I’d rather curl up in a ball and ignore the tomorrows that keep coming…

    Reply
    • jackalopekid says

      March 29, 2011 at 12:37 am

      keeping you in my prayers Alece. life is so hard sometimes, but just know you’ve got a friend to talk to anytime you need it. Thanks for being you. 🙂

      Reply
      • Alece says

        March 29, 2011 at 12:54 am

        thank you, adam. that means a lot.

        Reply
  14. Alece Ronzino says

    March 28, 2011 at 6:30 pm

    Right now I’m scared of… life.

    It is suddenly a whole lot harder and darker and more frightening than I ever thought it could possibly be. And, to be honest, I’d rather curl up in a ball and ignore the tomorrows that keep coming…

    Reply
    • asmithblog says

      March 28, 2011 at 6:37 pm

      keeping you in my prayers Alece. life is so hard sometimes, but just know you’ve got a friend to talk to anytime you need it. Thanks for being you. 🙂

      Reply
      • Alece Ronzino says

        March 28, 2011 at 6:54 pm

        thank you, adam. that means a lot.

        Reply
  15. m_dy says

    March 29, 2011 at 12:35 am

    im scared that i will never have a best friend.

    Reply
    • jackalopekid says

      March 29, 2011 at 12:50 am

      yes you will. you too cool. if i was closer we’d hang out all the time 🙂

      Reply
      • m_dy says

        March 29, 2011 at 3:26 pm

        ha. thanks kiddo. too bad you live on the awesome side of the world.

        Reply
  16. Mike Dyson says

    March 28, 2011 at 6:35 pm

    im scared that i will never have a best friend.

    Reply
    • asmithblog says

      March 28, 2011 at 6:50 pm

      yes you will. you too cool. if i was closer we’d hang out all the time 🙂

      Reply
      • Mike Dyson says

        March 29, 2011 at 9:26 am

        ha. thanks kiddo. too bad you live on the awesome side of the world.

        Reply
  17. Shana Poisel says

    March 29, 2011 at 12:47 am

    Scared that once the kids are gone I will be off exploring the world…. alone.

    Reply
    • jackalopekid says

      March 29, 2011 at 12:51 am

      Will keep you in our thoughts and prayers 🙂

      Reply
  18. Shana Poisel says

    March 28, 2011 at 6:47 pm

    Scared that once the kids are gone I will be off exploring the world…. alone. I know that sounds selfish, but I’ve already dealt with/ am dealing with unemployment and wondering how long that will last, but strangely enough, I feel that won’t be permanent, and that I’m under God’s wing. He’s got something up his sleeve and I just need to get prepared for what he has for me. I guess my fear is that He’s wanting me to do something that requires a lot of strength, and frankly, I just don’t want to do it alone.

    Reply
    • asmithblog says

      March 28, 2011 at 6:51 pm

      Will keep you in our thoughts and prayers 🙂

      Reply
  19. Brooklyn Cravens says

    March 29, 2011 at 3:44 pm

    The future. Seminary + marriage + a bad economy = ??.nnI just need to remind myself that God has always provided for me.

    Reply
  20. Brooklyn Cravens says

    March 29, 2011 at 9:44 am

    The future. Seminary + marriage + a bad economy = ??.

    I just need to remind myself that God has always provided for me.

    Reply

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