As kids, most guys imagined being a super hero. We’d watch Saturday morning cartoons and then we would go get a towel and swoosh around like we were Superman or Batman. To be truthful we’ve never outgrown that. We still want to be the hero today. It just looks different after you’re an adult and have a family.
You never outgrow it, but it changes.
Instead of beating up bad guys and saving the world, being a hero becomes making the world surrounding our wives a better place. Ladies, if your husband is honest he wants you to think about him, and look at him like he has just saved the world. There is nothing that fills a man up like when his wife sees him like that.
But, sometimes it’s hard, and we don’t know how to make that happen. Instead of being a super hero, we come across like a super villain! Or, like we don’t exist, which can be worse than the villain.
How to be a hero after marriage.
So guys, how can you be the hero in your marriage? You have to connect with your wife on a deeper level. Unlike the physical prowess it takes to be a comic book super hero, it’s more mental and emotional. I have found the best way to do that is the connection that comes from having consistent and enjoyable dates.
After making it through a period in our marriage when we didn’t date at all, we are now dating weekly and sometimes we even get more than one date per week. The first step in getting there was realizing how much of a negative impact not dating had on our relationship.
Once that happens, our work is really cut out for us because we can’t sit back and expect dates to happen, and we can’t expect our wives to always be the one to plan them. If you want to be the hero, planning and executing great date nights is one of the best ways to do that.
It’s not as easy as using our imagination.
Most of us struggle with this, so we don’t do anything about it. I finally decided to do something about it. Not only did I commit to dating and not letting anything get in the way of our date night, I put together a resource to help other men do so as well.
I want other men to experience that feeling of being a super hero again as well. After all, Superman had the Justice League, and Captain America had the Avengers. Nobody wants to be a hero alone. 😉
The resource I created is available on my website for FREE. It’s called Date Night in a Box: 12 Plug-and-Play Ideas to Connect with Your Wife This Weekend. It will get you over the hump when it comes to planning your dates. Click here to get your copy.
Once you do dig into it, you can immediately start working on a date for this weekend, and the next, and the next, and so on. Then, put on your super hero cape and enjoy being the hero again.