- A. Smith Blog - Leadership in Life
Listening.
Some are better than others at this quality. It seems like opening your ears and letting someone in would be so simple, but the thing that listening takes is time. It takes the effort of looking at someone in the eyes, shutting everything else off for a minute and giving them your undivided attention. It seems so simple, but I guess with everyone being in a rapid paced life, people just don’t have time to listen… or they don’t want to. Maybe that’s it.
When I write about love stuff, it sort of feels weird, but today is Valentine’s Day. What better time to talk about love languages than this, right?
There is nothing more awesome than finding what makes your spouse tick. What excites them?
If you haven’t read the book, The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman, I would recommend you read this book soon.
Maybe this is your Valentine’s Day gift to each other if you haven’t read it.
This book states that the 5 Love Languages are:
Words of Affirmation
Quality Time
Receiving Gifts
Acts of Service
Physical Touch
This is one of the first books Jasmine and I read together and I’m so glad we did. We quickly noticed that this book pinpointed what our love languages are.
Mine is definitely Receiving Gifts and Jasmine’s is definitely Quality Time.
I’m not saying that you play to just the one that they are, but it’s awesome to know what your spouse might need more of along the way.
Have you read this book?
What would you say your love language is?
I tweeted the other day that it took me way too long to find out what the really important stuff in life is, and I mean every word of that. It took me six years of marriage to figure this one out. I said God was first, but he really wasn’t. I said Jasmine was second, but she really wasn’t. Just because you say how you feel or say what you care about doesn’t mean that you actually feel that way. Your actions say more than your words. How much time you spend with that person or consumed in that activity also says a lot about your priorities. I’m not saying all of this because I think that I’m perfect at setting priorities. I would just like to challenge you to reevaluate your priorities like I did to make sure they are all where they should be.
