You were not meant to play life safe. But maybe you find yourself complacent in this moment? Maybe the easy way has always seemed like the best way? But there’s more to life than always being comfortable, even though feeling safe can be the one thing that seems to bring the most happiness in life. This is why happiness can be a bad metric at times along the journey, because let’s face it, taking any huge risk is uncomfortable. To describe leaps of faith, the last word I would use is ‘joyful’; they’re more fearful than anything else. (Says the guy who wrote a book on bravery.)
A much better metric at all times is self-fulfillment because, in the end, fulfillment is what brings true happiness. Now, I know that you’re thinking: “Adam, I want to be happy all the time and I want you to tell me that I can be happy all the time. Where’s that answer?” Well, I hate to break it to you, but if you haven’t noticed, life is full of highs and lows. As Dr. Vanessa Buote explains, “real happiness is about taking the good with the bad, and learning how to reframe the bad.” Bad stuff happens, and your emotions are affected accordingly.
As much as I’d like to give you three things to make life perfect, I am for honesty above all else. That being said, here are some quick facts on happiness: 30 to 80% of our happiness levels are dictated by genes and much of our happiness is dictated by our overall outlook on life. So, how can you find fulfillment and happiness even after knowing that happiness can be predetermined by your genes? It comes down to three steps.