This year marks the beginning of something different and exciting for my family. My wife is starting a new career after seven years of staying at home with our two children. We both feel that it is time for her to jump into this new phase of life, and we couldn’t be more excited. [Read more…] about It Will Never Be Convenient
Manipulation is everywhere. “Let me do this so I can get something in return” is the mantra of many. But when you don’t expect anything in return, good things begin to happen. I’ve seen this play out in my own life, and I’m sure you can see it in your own life as well. Shawn Askinosie of Askinosie Chocolate has definitely seen the reward from not expecting anything in return.
In a recent interview with Forbes Magazine, Shawn said, “The ‘expect nothing in return’ advice is part of the paradox of service: find yourself by losing yourself in the service of others. The idea is that once we are living our vocation we need to realize that it’s not a destination at which we ‘arrive.’ Therefore, we take this notion of service day by day in order to remain tethered to our life of meaningful work. I’m not saying that business folks should never expect profit or a healthy company, not at all. This principle is specifically related to the part of the process of maintaining our connections to the people and ideas that brought us this work in the first place.” [Read more…] about Don’t Expect Anything In Return
I’m jealous of my friends and family who say they have an inner voice. I have whole committees in my head, populated by a mix of smart, fearful, wise, and whiny perspectives! The view into my inner thoughts and feelings is complicated.
My observation is that we might say “I’m doing great!” or “Fine!” when people ask how we’re doing, but the reality is that inwardly we’re a complicated set of Fine and Not Great. This is why many successful people rely on meditation and mindfulness approaches to calm the inner noise.
Today I’m here today to say that it’s OK for leaders to be complicated. Let’s acknowledge our inconsistency and work with it, rather than waste time acting as if it’s not real.
My employer is a large multinational corporation. Someone recently wrote to ask how I was doing, and here is how I responded (with a few edits to protect some privacy): [Read more…] about It’s OK to Be Complicated