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Erik Tyler | July 16, 2015 | 6 Comments

Big Fat Lie #3: How To Say It Without Saying Anything At All – Erik Tyler

I trust that in the last few weeks, you’ve begun to think about communication as the truly magical and monumental thing it is, and that you’ve learned to be a better liar (in the best of ways, of course) in Part 1 and Part 2 of this “Big Fat Lies” series. Today, let’s continue to fine tune our mastery of the craft by pulling the curtain on one of the sneakiest – and yet most powerful – lies of all: nonverbal communication.

I think most of us take nonverbal communication for granted, because it infuses itself into most everything we do, even without our being aware of it. However, it’s just that lack of awareness that can get us into trouble and leave us wondering what went wrong in both personal and professional communication settings where it seemed our spoken message was on track – yet, for some mysterious reason, was not received as well as we had hoped it would be. Or perhaps, you’re just wondering how to pack more punch in a presentation.

Erik Tyler | July 9, 2015 | 6 Comments

Big Fat Lie # 2: How To Say What You Didn’t Actually Say – Erik Tyler

In my last post, I called you a liar. That is because you are one. And I trust you were challenged to become an even better liar after having read the aforementioned post – that you were inspired to incorporate strong idioms and figures of speech to vary your language approach, make your message more clear, and improve both your oral and written communication through clear voice and tone.

Today’s Big Lie is all about skillful slips of tongue. We’ll also cover how to approximate those linguistic loopholes in writing, which is both tricky – and, at times, immensely useful.

SETTING THE STAGE

As before, I’m going to ask you to stop in a moment and consider something before continuing to read: to answer a question to yourself (or, better yet, in writing), as part of the exploration and learning process. You may think you don’t need that step; and, as most anything else in life, the choice is yours. But carefully considering what you already know or believe about a topic before learning more will significantly increase the impact and “stickiness” of the new information.

Erik Tyler | July 2, 2015 | 6 Comments

Big Fat Lie # 1: How To Say What You Don’t Mean – Erik Tyler

I know you think you are a nice person and all, but the truth is that you are a liar. In fact, you’ve been lying all week long.

Don’t feel too badly. So have I. And I’m here today in hopes of helping you become even better at it.

GETTING STARTED

Our language is actually brilliantly crafted to allow us – even force us – to lie in order to be clearly understood or to avoid offending others in everyday interactions. Lying is actually one of the earmarks of a native or proficient speaker of many languages.

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