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breaking bad habits

Adam Smith | December 31, 2013 | 4 Comments

Breaking Bad Habits

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Do you want to do more? Breaking bad habits is a necessity. 

 

With the new year being upon us, there is no better time to look at what our habits are, whether they are good or bad. Now, I am not talking about New Year’s Resolutions or anything like that. I shy away from these resolutions because they last about two weeks and fade away. I can tell you a story of saying I will wake up at 5am everyday on December 31st of 2011 and by the end of January 2012, I wasn’t waking up at 5am any day of the week. Why? Because, when I wanted to wake up at 5am everyday of the week, I wasn’t doing anything to make it happen. I just thought it would happen on its own, but when I didn’t take the process in steps, I quickly became frustrated with forming this new habit and gave up on it quicker than it began.

 

Forming healthy habits is a gradual process, not an overnight happening.

 

Again, I am not talking about resolutions. I am talking about forming life-changing habits. This time of the year gives us the opportunity to reflect and it tells us what healthy habits we should repeat and what bad habits to get rid of. We have to look at our lives and see what is and isn’t working. It is then and only then that we will be able to start breaking bad habits in our lives. It is at this point where we are able to move onward and upward to a bigger and better and life.

 

What life story do you want to live? Know who you want to be and create habits to make that happen.

 

Here are some examples of those things that have haunted you for too long and some action steps to begin breaking bad habits in your own life:

 

If your closest relationships are a mess…

Devote more time and energy to them.

Romance them.

Narrow down the relationships that are the most important.

 

If your health isn’t where you want it to be…

Eat more life-enhancing foods.

Have an event in the future, such as running a marathon, that you are working toward.

Laugh more often.

 

If your schedule is too hectic to manage…

Delegate everything you can.

Take a vacation to clear your mind.

Saying “Yes” is important, but you may need to begin saying “Yes” less often. Take hold of what is important before making bigger commitments.

 

If you can’t seem to get out of bed on time…

Prepare the night before.

Have something exciting to look forward to and do it first thing. If you aren’t excited about life, then you are doing it wrong.

Do everything in your power to increase your energy.

 

If you aren’t making the impact that you feel you should be…

Create the habit of reading.

Teach others.

Do more for others.

 

These are all great habits to implement, but let me remind you to take things gradually. When it comes to breaking bad habits, it comes down to making wiser decisions and implementing more discipline in your life for 2014. It requires you to become excited about life once again and to fight the depression you have been in for so long. It will pull you to romance your relationships, work towards goals and have fun doing it and focus on your top priorities. I am one of the last people remaining who believe that you can truly live a balanced life. I believe that you can do life well, while balancing life and embracing all that it has to offer.

 

Doing life well, taking the time and attention to focus on breaking bad habits and devoting yourself to creating better habits motivates you, as well as those around you.

 

The reason you should care to live a better life is not only that you reap the benefits yourself. Even though that is reason enough, the reason is much more than that. The reason you should long to live a better life is the impact you make on others along the way. That’s right. The only requirement to doing life well is that you care to make a bigger impact in the lives of others. When you begin breaking bad habits, you become more excited about living life to the fullest and good habits begin forming in your life.

 

If you want to get the results that everyone else is getting, continue with bad habits.

Good Habits = Bigger Impact

 

How can you begin to break bad habits in your life and what habits do you need to get rid of?

 

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The One Area in Your Relationship You Must Address

Jackie Bledsoe, Jr. | December 30, 2013 | 12 Comments

The One Area in Your Relationships You Must Address in the New Year

The One Area in Your Relationship You Must Address

As I was brainstorming ideas for this post, my last of the year on this site, I was having a hard time. I wanted to write something that would end the year with a bang. Something that would provide a lot of value, just like every other post from the great team of writers on the site. But I got nothing.

I thought of some other posts I’ve written and read, but still nothing. I noticed the common posts covering New Year’s resolutions, goals for the upcoming year, and top 10 lists of 2013. But nothing inspired me enough to create my own resolution post, or a top goals for the new year post, or anything related to those. I couldn’t figure out what it was that had me coming up blank.

What would you like to read?

Then I realized I’ve been contributing posts about relationships on ASmithBlog.com for over four months, but I have yet to find out what you want to read from me. I have been writing based on the challenges I face, and the lessons I am learning, assuming you are experiencing similar challenges and learning similar lessons. This might be true, or I could be completely off-base.

One thing I have learned from 12 years of marriage and being a father of three is don’t assume anything! If you want to know what somebody is thinking about, what they are dealing with, or how they feel, then the best way to find out is to ask them. In 2014, I want my posts to be more relevant to your relationship needs, more relevant to the relationship problems you are trying to solve, and overall more interesting and valuable to you. So I am asking…

What relationship topics would you like to see more of on ASmithBlog.com in the new year?

I want to know what your biggest challenges are in your relationships. I want to hear from you about the different types of relationships you have, not just with your spouse or significant other, but your children and your professional relationships as well. I am certain some of the things you are experiencing I have experienced, am experiencing now, or will soon experience. As we share our challenges and we interact through posts and comments I anticipate we will grow together. We will also provide immense value to each other.

I’ll start…

To get the proverbial ball (comments) rolling I’ll start. The one area in my relationship that must be addressed in the New Year is being fully present with whomever I am with at the time. As I look at the flow of my relationships this past year, I noticed that I have been partially present. For example when my wife is wanting my attention, I  am there, but not fully present. When my kids are needing daddy, I am physically there, but not fully present.

Sometimes when I am writing a blog post, you, the readers, and this keyboard need my attention, but I am not always fully present. Football had part of my attention tonight, which could explain why I was coming up blank! So, that is what I plan to address and do better at in the new year.

Now it is your turn…

What relationship topics would you like to read more about in the new year?

It may help to put some more urgency on it like I did…

What one area in your relationships must be addressed in the new year?

Please share in the comment section below, and let’s grow together in 2014!

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Vincent Russell | December 29, 2013 | 5 Comments

Software Engineer – Tommy George Interview Part Two

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What do you do for a living now and where do you work?

I’m extremely blessed to be writing code and working with the YouVersion team on the Bible App. I get to help make the Bible available to people all over the world, by writing code! This is definitely a dream job and I work with the best people around.

Now that you are “grown up”, who or what inspires you the most?

I think I’m inspired less these days by specific ‘role model’ type people and much more by the things around me in life in general. My wife inspires me to be a better me. I’m inspired a lot by the work I get to do and the stories from people and friends around me in life.

Creatively, it’s a collective of people and groups – bands, artists, designers, etc. Fifteen minutes on the Internet has more than enough cool stuff to keep anyone inspired. It’s what you do with the inspiration you already have that makes any kind of difference.

How do you stay creative? Or, what ways do you seek to be more creative?

Read, do, and then become part of a community that gives you real feedback. Write music. Even bad music. Sometimes you have to get all of the bad ideas out of the way before the good ones will come. That means play a lot. “Creativity” is definitely found in a state of play (there’s research to show this) and play is inhibited by fear. So do whatever it takes to get to a place where you can tune out the haters (even the one in your head) and just generate some stuff. Some of it will be downright awful, but that’s okay. You don’t have to share everything — but you do have to practice being creative.

It’s so easy to devour tons of “inspiring” information or content these days. I try to stay active by putting some stuff into motion, tinkering/hacking on things, etc. Also, finding people I trust that will call me out on my blind spots. There are places, even in my personal life, where I need to be more creative, and I’ll never grow in that area if I don’t have someone I trust to point it out.

What’s been the coolest thing you’ve been able to do in your life so far?

Have I mentioned that I’m bad with superlatives? I’ve been in a band, have a job that changes lives, and I am able to work hard enough to be free enough to do so many other things I love. Coming onto the YouVersion team has definitely been one of my favorite things, for sure.

What’s the one thing you’d like to accomplish in your profession?

I’d like to continually get better! I get to do a lot of cool stuff, but I’m well aware that there’s still a lot to learn, and I want to learn it. I also love to help people out, and so I’m hoping to do some more “consulting” in the coming year. I’m not crazy about that term, but I’m not sure what else to call it at the moment. I’ve learned a lot of lessons, and I have a lot of stuff in my head, and I love to share it with folks that are getting started on the internet, building their first business, and so forth. So one thing – help other people.

If you could travel anywhere in the world, where would it be and why?

I would turn to my wife and ask where she wanted to go. That’s where and why we’d go there. =)

Do you read a lot? If so, what authors or bloggers do you like most and how do they inspire you creatively or just in general?

I wish I could say yes, but I know some folks that read WAY more than I do, so I just can’t. I highly recommend it, though! There are some standard books that I recommend regularly:

  • “Axiom”, by Bill Hybels. He knows a lot, and shares it in bite size chunks. I think I’d love to write something half as useful as this some day.
  • “The Five Dysfunctions of a Team” and “Death by Meeting” by Patrick Lencioni. Very valuable information about working with other humans, on teams.
  • “The Five Love Languages” by Gary Chapman. Easy read and not just a marriage book. Great information in here about the psychology of people in general.

As for blogs: I read so much on the Internet. I’ll just recommend Micahael Hyatt’s blog (http://michaelhyatt.com/). He has a lot of good information on leadership, publishing, and marketing.

What advice do you have for creatives who are reading this article?

  • Know yourself. Take some evaluations, do Strengths Finder 2.0, and get involved with some people that will give you real feedback.
  • Be yourself. One of the best examples of this I’ve heard was about music, and used Chris Cornell (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chris_Cornell) of Soundgarden. He has an extremely unique singing voice. He didn’t bother trying to sound like other popular singers at the time. He did his thing. Find your own style, or sound, or what-have-you, and run with it! (Just remember, you can’t be yourself unless you know yourself).
  • Go and do. Try stuff out! I’ve personally seen many young people avoiding doing some seriously rewarding work because of (what I perceive to be) fear of failure. If you’re not sure what you want to do, you can at least try a bunch of things and determine what you don’t want to do. Before you find yourself trapped in the death spiral of “not enough time, not enough money, not enough…” just make some things happen. Take your time and learn from your mistakes. You will make them! So why worry?
  • Learn, don’t just read and be “inspired”.

This concludes our two part interview series with Tommy George, software engineer for YouVersion. I hope this interview afforded you the opportunity to look into the life of another creative and grab hold of some valuable life lessons. One of the things Tommy said that stuck out to me most was “become part of a community that gives you real feedback.” As a video editor, I am always striving to be better. For me, this will look like showing other video editors my work and having them critique it. What does becoming part of a community look like for you?

What steps can you take this week to get to know yourself better? In what ways will you “go and do” instead of being trapped by fear?

“If opportunity doesn’t knock, build a door.” – Milton Berle

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