Believing In Yourself Before Others Do

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We all have dreams and if you don’t have any, then you have to make some.

If you already know what your dreams are, don’t give up on them, because we all know that’s what you REALLY want to do.

But, you want to know what reaching dreams begin with?

Dreams begin in believing in yourself. They begin with knowing that you can actually do it.

To do this, you have to cut out all negativity. You have to change your “self-talk”.

When I focused on this, I didn’t even realize that I talked really negatively. I would start sentences with “I don’t know if I can, but…” and “I think…”. Those phrases had already set me up for failure before I even finished my thought.

Confidence starts with “self-talk” because your wildest dreams sound pretty crazy right now. I know mine do…

Most likely, you haven’t told a lot of others about your crazy dreams because they’re so unrealistic in other’s minds. It’s almost embarrassing. They sound unbelievable once the words come out of your mouth, so you just tell those closest to you…maybe. This is especially true if you want to be in a totally different occupation than the one you are in now.

Have you given your future much thought? Do your have your goals, hopes and dreams written down somewhere?

Challenge: Take a few minutes to think about this. With all obstacles out of the way, who do you REALLY want to become or are you already there? You can leave a comment below.

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  • Anonymous

    Such a true post.  Believing in yourself requires positive self talk and accepting who you are.  Winning in life and business is an inside job.  Wonderful reminder.

    • jackalopekid


  • Loren Pinilis

    A lot of times we define negative self talk as insulting ourselves. But often it can just be simply limiting ourselves. It can be masked as a dose of healthy skepticism, but it can have devastating effects.

    • jackalopekid

      absolutely. love it man

  • Jason Vana

    Powerful post, Adam! Over the past few weeks, I’ve found myself believing some negative things about myself and my dream: I can’t do it, I’m not a good enough leader, I don’t have what it takes…all because it’s not going as fast as I thought. I’m in the process of changing that thought pattern. Thanks for this!

    • jackalopekid

      awesome man!

  • Matt Smith

    That’s so true for me.  I do the whole, “I don’t know if I can”, “I’ll try it, I guess” sort of thing all the time.  I think it has something to do with not wanting to be seen as arrogant.  It only limits me and the good I KNOW I can do for the world.  Great post, thanks.

    • jackalopekid

      You’re welcome man :)

  • Ngina Otiende

    I like the way you’ve put it, that if you don’t have dreams, then you have to make some. 

    When it comes to having goals, a passion, dream, living a life of purpose, some of us think in terms of you either have it or you don’t. Many miss out on that part of “go make some”. It is possible to live our dream because all of us were born with one. We just need to figure it out, if we haven’t already. 

    Personally, I am not there yet – in terms of living it out fully. I know what I am here for, have my purpose figured out. Just walking out the process now.

    Love your insights here, thank you for sharing.

    • jackalopekid

      absolutely :)

  • The JackB

    I have a  very clear idea of what my dreams are and how I hope to make them come true.

    • jackalopekid


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